It’s not exactly black and white.

“There are people who have said that I’m being brave for being openly supportive of gay marriage, gay adoption, basically of gay rights but with all due respect I humbly dissent, I’m not being brave, I’m being a decent human being. And I don’t think I should receive an award for that or for merely stating what I believe to be true, that love is a human experience not a political statement. However, I acknowledge that sadly we live in a world where not everybody feels the same. My family and I will help the good fight continue until that long awaited moment arrives, when our rights are equal and when the political limits on love have been smashed.”

I know what I should believe. Or at least what’s written and what is preached. I’m not going to repeat it just because it’s a long explanation, but the point is, I know it by heart. I understand it, meaning I don’t just blindly say what my stand is because it’s what the Church is saying. (And they don’t even know exactly where to stand! Ugh – different discussion altogether.)  

So I know the dogma, and I get where they’re coming from, and I get it that it’s not really black and white… but I still don’t know exactly where I stand. But if I had to choose, I’d be for gay marriage. I can’t imagine denying people the most basic human experience. I’m a romantic – I’ve idealized love as the only perfect thing humans can experience. Who am I to strip someone of that gift? What person has that right?

And I know that the Church is not fully answering this question because they believe that, too. They love gay people as much as they love everyone else. But there’s a whole congregation world wide riding on their backs. They can’t just make a decision based on what a few people think is right. I get that they need a basis for what they’re peaching. It’s not exactly a technicality. Just something to base their teachings on. Basically they’re sticking to what they know, that God established marriage for a man and woman. They don’t know why, they don’t understand the meaning behind that (do we ever?) but it’s covenant that was made in the beginning. It’s a God-established tradition. (and ‘tradition’ not in a sense of “we’ve been doing this a long time, let’s keep doing it.” But in a “God started it this way, there’s a reason for that, let’s respect it.”) The Church, for lack of a better term, is playing it safe. 

So I don’t really know how to end this post. Confusion prompted this, and confusion will wrap it up. But I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again, there’s one rule that trumps all rules: 

Love others as you love yourself.

And based in this, I just want people to be happy. So yes, if one of my gay friends wants to get married, of course I’ll be there! I’ll freaking give a toast if they want! 


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